I think my heart stopped for a moment on that November day in 2003. I was sitting before an evaluation committee for the Diversion Program for the Board of Registered Nurses. I had just been informed that the committee was sending me to residential treatment for one year. One year! That seemed very extreme to me, until I was honest with myself. I realized that one year was the minimal time I needed to get a solid foundation for a chance at long-term sobriety. Humility was going to be key for my success with this.

I had been introduced to recovery from substance abuse back in 1986 as a 2nd Lieutenant in the Air Force. I had been sent to a drug and alcohol treatment center after being caught stealing the narcotic Demerol from the base hospital down in Del Rio, Texas. I thought it was very nice of the Air Force to send me to treatment before I was court-martialled and sent to Leavenworth. It is too bad that the whole time in treatment I was not ready or willing to discuss my long history with alcohol. The fact that serving time at Ft. Leavenworth was not enough to insure long term continuous sobriety is a testament to the denial I was in about the severity of my illness.

Seventeen years later after having some periods of sobriety with longer and longer periods of relapse I sat before this committee. I had somehow managed to hold on to my nursing license. The committee reviewed the 26-page intake form I had filled out for them. Thankfully, I had finally become completely honest about myself. I felt that my life was in jeopardy and that my honesty was the only thing that could possibly save me from myself. I had not only struggled with sobriety, but had battled an eating disorder since I was fourteen years old.

My only experience with any form of residential treatment was with the Charter Hospital patients I saw when I would go to meetings there. I pictured myself with an armband and doing the Thorazine shuffle in no time. But I was WILLING TO GO TO ANY LENGTHS now to stay clean and sober.

What a surprise it was for me to enter Crossroads and stand in this beautiful structure that looked like a house on the inside — not a hospital! I felt immediate warmth, and as I walked in to apply to stay there I noticed a picture of a dog with a special tribute to this dog on the fireplace mantel. Wow! My love for dogs knew no bounds, and here I had entered a place that had so loved their dog that they shared this with all of those who entered. I felt deep down inside that my life was going to change in a very positive way from this brief experience.

Life at Crossroads was transforming for me. I was living with eighteen other newly recovering women and learning to deal with life on life’s terms on a daily basis. On my third day I was given “House Mom” duties, which meant I was responsible for cooking a whole meal for everyone. I felt overwhelmed at the prospect, as I was the type of cook that needed a cookbook to boil an egg. Thankfully I would discover one of the great facts about Crossroads: There were women there who were willing to help me through the experience and let me learn. They talked me through rice/bean/coleslaw/cornbread night, and there was a lot of laughter along the way! I also had a daily chore for the house and began to learn about deep cleaning an area with our weekly “Full House Participation” on Saturdays. I shared in the elations and the sorrows of the house. Women we cared for relapsed and were asked to leave. Other women won medals at the Recovery Olympics! We raised money as a house with yard sales, fashion shows, bake sales, Recovery Idol, and other activities along the way.

I obtained a job as a waitress downtown and became a big fan of my bus pass! I began to experience joy in ways unimaginable. There exists a love and belonging at Crossroads that no words can begin to describe. I developed coping skills for dealing with my eating disorder, despite all of the triggers, by confronting the problem head on and learning to exercise in a healthy way. I was able to participate in Crossroads groups and functions, work the 12-step programs, and follow the Nursing Diversion program mandates in a sound and happy way because I had finally turned my life over to a higher power. Crossroads reinforced the idea that life can be lived in a fun and sober manner, but that it would not always be easy.

One year went by too fast. I ended up staying on longer than a year. I have resumed my nursing practice full-time, continue to exercise regularly, participate in recreational activities, work the 12-step program, follow the Nursing Diversion program, pass on what I have learned to others, and get over to Crossroads at least weekly to check in with the house. My life has gone from a pitiful tragedy to a beautiful love story. Love of life, God, sobriety, Crossroads, and the people in my life who make every minute of it fulfilling and special.

My name is Lindsey, and this is my story. I am an addict. I began drinking at age 14, which soon evolved into a daily crystal meth habit. I have spent the last 16 years of my life under the influence. In my addiction, I have been homeless, been in jail several times, attended five different colleges never finishing, had a child, got married, divorced and remarried, had more jobs than I can count, and have lied, cheated, and stolen from everyone that I loved. My daily challenge was getting my addiction to coincide with my real life. It seemed I had done that for a while, but things always fell apart. Addiction always leads to the same three endings: jails, institutions and death. As I progressed in my addiction I began to change. I was a shell of person. I had no soul, no personality. I was so full of fear; I would just sit there, not saying anything. I was desperately unhappy, simply existing. I thought about death often.

It was a blessing when I was arrested the last time. The judge sentenced me to drug classes, but I went back and asked to be sentenced to a recovery home. I had been fighting going to a recovery home. To me, that represented the end of the line. I had been in treatment before, but I wasn’t ready then. I have never been able to stay sober for longer than a few days. I knew a recovery home was at least a six month commitment, and that was exactly what I needed. When I came to Crossroads, I was so willing and ready. The program was perfect for an addict like me. They keep you busy with chores, meals, groups, meetings, and meditation. My first chore was the Coffee Bar, an all day chore. I was grateful to have something to do, to keep my mind occupied, and to feel useful. They teach basic life skills: cooking, cleaning, and getting a job. They also teach you how to live with other people and be respectful of their feelings. Most importantly, you learn how to live life on life’s terms in recovery. I thought I knew these things, but I had forgotten them in my addiction.

My life is completely different today. I have a strong connection with God that fills me with happiness and serenity. My family is back in my life, and they actually want to be around me. I have a wonderful relationship with my husband that is honest and full of love. I have friendships with women in recovery that are my support system. One of the greatest gifts I have gotten from this program is learning the value of being a mother. I am working on the relationship with my son, mending bridges, being consistent, loving him with all my heart. I am accepting of the situation, and I have faith that everything will work out the way it is supposed to in God’s time. I am so grateful for Crossroads, the staff, and the program. At 30 years old I have finally been able to put together over nine months of sobriety. I could not have done it without this house.

When I came into Crossroads on January 31, 2003 I was completely broken down and defeated by this disease called alcoholism and drug addiction. I had burned every bridge in town and had every door shut on me. Seeking oblivion through alcohol and drugs on the cold and lonely streets of San Diego, I realized that I was running out of options, going in and out of crisis houses and psychiatric wards in hopes of finding comfort and love.

Most of my family was deceased and those who were still living would have nothing to do with me, so I found myself totally alone and suicidal. I knew I would die soon if I didn’t get help, so I came to Crossroads Foundation and realized that I was finally home! I stayed at Crossroads for almost 2 years. During that time I took advantage of every single thing that Crossroads had to offer me and through this I would learn to love again, but more importantly I got my soul back. Today I walk with my head held high, I have self-confidence, and my self-esteem is better than it’s ever been. I have friendships that are based on love and respect and I owe it all to Crossroads. I’ll never forget the days spent there. The best days of my life!

Before coming to Crossroads, I suffered from a crystal meth addiction and lost all hope in life. Due to my addiction I made bad decisions and I did things I’d never imagined I would do. I grew up in a loving home, and had the best childhood I could ever dream of. However when I was introduced to drugs I compromised all of my morals. After learning the street mentality my heart grew colder and my temper grew hotter. I was locked up numerous times. This last time I spent almost a year in jail, during which I had a lot of time to think.

My family finally became sick of my actions and decided to turn their backs on me. I was all alone with no one to turn to and felt completely hopeless. During the nights I couldn’t sleep. The guilt and shame would keep me up. During the days it was loud. I wasn’t able to show much emotion because in that environment it shows weakness, and I didn’t want to be walked all over. I have been on probation since I was 18 and haven’t successfully completed it yet. I was court ordered to do a program again since I had never finished one before. I was fine with it this time because after reaching bottom I felt I couldn’t possibly go any lower. A program was the only way out that was up.

After my release I came to Crossroads to apply and was on the waiting list for two months. My bags were fully packed since the day I applied. On May 24, 2010 I received the call to come in. That day my life started to look up. I was welcomed into this home with open arms from people suffering from the disease of addiction and I truly felt a part of it. I have gained spirituality and learned to let go and let God. I have learned to be more accepting of things and people. I have the willingness to go to any lengths, and the strength to carry on. I have regained a sense of hope and I have faith that things can only get better from here on out.

My family is back in my life. I am able to sleep peacefully at night. I have made good friends and I smile and laugh a lot more. Even though I was nudged by a judge I went into this program like it was my last chance at life and I’d better soak up everything like a dry sponge. Today I have 14 months of being clean. I feel good about myself and what I’m doing. It truly pays off when my family tells me they are proud of me and my parole officer says I am going to be his success story. I am so grateful for Crossroads, the staff that would do anything for me, my sisters in sobriety who support me, and my Higher Power who guides me.